Greetings everyone.
I rent out spare rooms in my house where I also live, and a young guy moved in earlier in the year and regularly does little things that erode my trust. Nothing particularly serious (details to come) but basically, I don't like living with someone whose attitude shows me they're somewhat untrustworthy. I've discussed this in the past with him and thought the message got across, but it seems like it hasn't.
So the question on my mind is if and how to ask him to kindly move on, and I'd just like to get some opinions and experiences from others at this stage before I make up my mind. So here's the detail. He has helped himself to other people's stuff in the past, in particular mine, without asking. He'll take food and things from the kitchen and leave them at work despite knowing full well that's not OK. He took an expensive pen from my office and left it in the kitchen -- office has no door and is next to his room, and I made it clear afterwards that "My office is private". He was stealing toilet paper from work and bringing it home until I asked him to stop. Storage containers I just bought disappeared and I discovered them in the fridge full of his lunch. He picked most of the lemons after I'd made it clear to leave them on the tree. And while I was away recently my security camera caught him in my office again twice, not clear what he was doing and I'm not about to mention the camera to him.
So how would any of you proceed here? He can be a helpful and friendly guy at times, although he behaves quite immaturely. I don't want to just kick him out but really his attitude and trustability are a bit of a thorn for me. Similar stories please?
[Edit for clarity and spelling.]
I rent out spare rooms in my house where I also live, and a young guy moved in earlier in the year and regularly does little things that erode my trust. Nothing particularly serious (details to come) but basically, I don't like living with someone whose attitude shows me they're somewhat untrustworthy. I've discussed this in the past with him and thought the message got across, but it seems like it hasn't.
So the question on my mind is if and how to ask him to kindly move on, and I'd just like to get some opinions and experiences from others at this stage before I make up my mind. So here's the detail. He has helped himself to other people's stuff in the past, in particular mine, without asking. He'll take food and things from the kitchen and leave them at work despite knowing full well that's not OK. He took an expensive pen from my office and left it in the kitchen -- office has no door and is next to his room, and I made it clear afterwards that "My office is private". He was stealing toilet paper from work and bringing it home until I asked him to stop. Storage containers I just bought disappeared and I discovered them in the fridge full of his lunch. He picked most of the lemons after I'd made it clear to leave them on the tree. And while I was away recently my security camera caught him in my office again twice, not clear what he was doing and I'm not about to mention the camera to him.
So how would any of you proceed here? He can be a helpful and friendly guy at times, although he behaves quite immaturely. I don't want to just kick him out but really his attitude and trustability are a bit of a thorn for me. Similar stories please?
[Edit for clarity and spelling.]
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